Woman Cuts Out Copycat Friend Who Keeps Stealing Wedding Plans

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Eric Lund
May 8, 2021 10:00 AM EDT

Planning a wedding takes a whole lot of time, research, and decision-making. This person is coming to realize that their friend is just taking all her ideas to use at her own wedding, which is conveniently scheduled before her own. The wedding drama cuts hard and cuts deep, especially when it comes to horrible bridezillasand wedding Karens.

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    Font - Posted by u/coffeecrazyy 2 days ago 26 e9 S 5 19 AITA for not wanting to talk about my wedding plans with my friend anymore because she keeps stealing them? Not the A-hole I recently got engaged to my boyfriend of almost 3 years. We are hoping to get married fall of next year so we have started some wedding planning. I have a friend, F, who also got engaged a couple months ago. We have been friends since high school and we're semi close as far as that goes.
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    Font - Anyways, for the longest time she wasn't doing any wedding planning. However, now that I am engaged too and have started my wedding planning, she seems to have started as well. Not sure why she wasn't until now. At first, we talked about simple things. She's super indecisive and I have a pretty good idea of what I want. She plans to get married next summer, so she will marry before me if it goes with her plans. I didn't mind talking to her at first. We have very different styles and so we
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    Font - For example, I am touring venues this weekend. She had no interest in the types of venues I am touring until I started actually wanting to go to them. When I told her my top choice of the venues, now she is planning to book that for herself. Same goes for photographers, caterers, decor, dresses, etc. literally every wedding planning she has either copied me, plans to copy me, or semi alters my idea to make it seem like she isn't. Now I'm not trying to gatekeep my wedding by any means. I d
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    Font - She basically lets me do all the research for things, then asks me the questions about them, waits until I make a decision, then makes the same decision as me. It's like she knows she's getting married first anyways, so she technically won't be "copying" anyone if she does it first. So, I have stopped talking to her about my wedding planning. At first I brushed her off like "oh I haven't looked into that yet" or "I'm waiting to plan that" just so I didn't have to give any details on thing
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    Font - AITA here? I don't want to come off as a bridezilla. And if it were just a couple things like using the same photographer or caterer or just stuff that doesn't matter behind the scenes I wouldn't care at all, but so far she's using the same florist (same flowers also), venue, color scheme, decor, etc.
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    Font - Osolemia Partassipant [1] 2 days ago 27e7 3 8 & 8 More NTA, but make up some weird stuff about your wedding instead. Use sunflowers instead of roses, have clowns performing, color scheme orange and purple, have a herd of sheep at the reception. Play with her mind a bit.
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    Font - Sweeper1985 Professor Emeritass [87] 2 days ago NTA Throw her off the scent. Research having a wedding at the safari park at feeding hour for the big cats. Show her the Princess Leia outfit you're "decided on", with matching bun hairdo. Tell her that a ranch dressing fountain is your must-have item for the buffet and all your flowers will be cactus arrangements.
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    Font - Careless_Mango 2 days ago She has taken your venue, photographer, caterer, decor and dresses - and only now you have stopped telling her?! I mean what is left wedding invites. She isn't really a friend if she is acting this way in taking your researched choices and her response to you when you stopped volunteering the info. She doesn't respect you at all. Is that ok for you ? Either tell her outright what she has done and say it has saddened you or decide this isn't a friendship anymore a
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    Font - Lithogiraffe 2 days ago If you did want to mislead her, do it indirectly. If you want to ensnare an animal, best not to leave a scent. Next time she is over, leave a fake Wedding folder with fake choices, out but slightly under another piece of paper. Or better yet, peeking out under an open bridal magazine. Then leave the room for a few min in the bathroom
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    Rectangle - Fleetdancer Professor Emeritass [92] 2 days ago NTA. She wants you to do the work planning her wedding. How attached are you to this "friendship"?
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    Font - Critical_Aspect Asshole Aficionado [16] 2 days ago NTA Don't share another detail with her. And whatever you do, DON'T EVER discuss baby names with her.
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